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Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Initially

In the quest for looking for the perfect beach bag, I started thinking about my initials.

You know we Southern girls love a good monogram.

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When I got married, I decided to use my maiden name as my new middle name.

I did this for a few reasons:

1.  Business:  Since I work for my dad, it looks better to use my maiden name as part of my full name.  It's more of a recognition thing.
2.  Family Tradition:  Both my mom and my grandmother took their maiden name as their legal middle name.
3.  Simplicity:  Caroline Elizabeth Smithwick would have just been too long! 

I know a lot of women these days are still using their "original" middle name.  Did you keep your middle name or use your maiden name for your middle name?  And why? 

38 comments:

Natasha said...

i went the old route and kepy my middle name, but only because i was named after my grandmother and wanted to keep that in there... so i dropped the massey, which was hard. i just dont see why jeff couldnt take my name ;)

Courtney B said...

I kept my middle name! Courtney Brinkerhoff is already a crazy long name, adding my maiden name for my middle name would've been way too much!
But when I'm in trouble with my husband he pulls out the whole name... First, middle, maiden, and last name. Ha ha!

Valerie Griffin said...

I used my maiden name as my new middle name too! It's traditional in my family as well. :Plus, I just think it is special to keep that connection with my family :)

Shannon said...

When I got married, I kept my maiden name as my middle name. My reasons were similar to yours: My mom and her mother did the same, so it felt very traditional. Plus, my father died in '04, and I don't know that I'll ever feel emotionally ready to "part" with that blatant tie to him. (BTW, love the monogram on that bag!)

Jessica said...

I would have loved to make my maiden name my middle name but its just too long. I'd be Jessica Trowbridge Crimella. So I stuck with my middle name (Ryan). My mom kept her original middle name too.

Heather (Live.Love.Laugh.) said...

My friend did this. I kept my original middle name because my maiden name (Clevenger) was obnoxious and long. My middle name (Ann) is the same as my moms so I wanted to keep it.

ty said...

noooot married :) however, where did you get the bag??

Candice Lynn said...

I will be keeping Lynn and dropping Tate; however, I do plan to name a baby Tate :)

I need a new beach bag..any recommendations?

Nicole said...

When we get married I will have the SILLIEST name (Nicole Cole)! And I go by my middle name, so I will legally drop my first name and have my maiden name as my new middle name! Maybe on paper it will break up the silliness of my name. ;)

Jayme said...

We're getting married in December and I'm having a hard time deciding what to do about this. I love my maiden name but I also feel like my middle name is part of who I am. My mom always calls me by my first and middle name together.

jenn said...

Love anything monogrammed as well

Jessica said...

I dropped my maiden name, it just wouldn't go with my new name! LOL.

Carolyn said...

I love the idea of taking your maiden name as your middle name! But Almquist isn't a very pretty middle name... hahahahaha! :)

SEW said...

I hyphenated my last name! My mom did this as well, she is Colombian so its very traditional there - and I did the same! So now I am Sarah Elizabeth Wright-Gaul and I love it. I kept my family name as well as my middle name. It does make for longer signatures (I don't sign my middle name) but its the best of both worlds.

Holly said...

I too dropped my middle name and made my maiden name my new middle name. I did so because my maiden name is Slovenian and very special to me as my grandmother taught me so much about the culture and the country. I love that it is still a part of me!

KelleeLyn said...

I struggled with the name change. I was going to hyphenate and my husband was fine with that, but it was going to be REALLY long. In the end I decided to take his last name and keep my middle name. I am the 4th generation of women on my Mom's side to have 'Lyn' either as a middle name or in their first name, so I figured that was enough of a homage to my family. I never even considered taking my maiden as a middle name, I think that's a fabulous idea!

Melissa said...

I actually kept both my middle name and my maiden name. It's long, but I just loved both names and couldn't make a decision on which to drop. But when I do a monogram, I use my maiden name as the middle initial.

Elizabeth said...

I kept my maiden name as my middle name. I wanted to still recognize where I came from and keep that connection.

fancyfunction said...

Guess I'm the odd man out so far, but my maiden name meant too much to me to drop and my name (first, middle, last) is so long as it is - I just kept my name and didn't take my husband's. Our kids will have his last name but I don't think the two of us not having the same last name makes us any less of a family. :)

Tamara @ T {times} Three said...

I hyphenated as well... and I struggled with that decision! It is more of a family thing for me. I am an only child, and on my Dad's side, there are only daughters - so the name will not carry on at all. It makes for a long signature, but it just felt like the right thing to do!

Mrs. S said...

I kept my maiden name which is Anderson, soo long but it dies and we have no boys.. Monograms and initials have been on my mind lately trying to think of a baby name.. I finally came up with one and realized the initials would be GAS! ha!

R said...

I've thought about this a lot! My middle name is 9 letters long and my ex had a 12 letter last name. I'd have had a name so long it didn't fit on a scantron and while we were talking about marriage and such the last name debate came up. I really entertained the idea of swapping out my middle name for my maiden name.

While the relationship ended the thought is still in my head. There is only one male cousin to keep the name going so part of me really wants to keep it for family reasons but I like my middle name. Who knows, maybe I'll keep them all!

JMc said...

I am not married yet, but I will drop my maiden name all together. It is long and my middle name is too unique for me to drop. It also gives a connection to a family member that is long passed.

Adrienne Gomer said...

I always hated my first and middle names (Adrienne Krystle) and my husband's last name is Gomer (also bad), but I don't want a different last name than my kids - my mom and I have different last names and it always caused problems when schools and things that needed identification needed proof that she was my mom. So I decided to take Gomer and drop Krystle and replace it with my maiden name (the only part of my name that I like, haha).

star said...

I don't have a middle name, but I did keep my last name and just hyphenated Timmy's last name. So I have 2 last names and no middle name!

Meagan said...

I kept my middle name. Do your parents ever say Caroline Elizabeth any more? I got middle named today by my dad!

Krystal said...

Good post - I also dropped my middle name and kept my maiden name as my middle!

Casey said...

I kept my middle name. I dropped my maiden name, mostly because it is uuber common (Smith) and I have always liked my middle name (Leah) and did not want 4 names!

Erin @ Sassin' Southern Style said...

I did what any good, Southern woman would do, I dropped my middle name like a hot potato and replaced it with my maiden. Well, that was largely because I hated my middle name and loved my maiden name.

My dad cannot call me anything but First Middle, though.

erin said...

I did the same thing you did...used my maiden name as my middle name. Just made things easier that way! :)

Laura@Cowboy Boots said...

hey we're both elizabeth's!!!

my maiden smashed with laura...messed ppl up with my name growing up...nelson...i was called lauren. i guess when said together they hear what they want.

i kept my middle name....we have enough nelson boys in the world to keep it going haha

but

if i worked for the fam company then yes...i prob would have switched....i like knowing there is family in the business

as for the monogram sooo true about us southern gals...and love the bag

KRISTIN said...

I thought about keeping my maiden name as my middle name but it would've been the longest name ever. I think I'm going to use my maiden name & married name on my new business cards--like you said, for the recognition.

Carol {Everyday Delights} said...

Confession - I haven't changed my name yet! I am 100% planning to - just two years later I haven't gotten around to deciding what to do with my middle name! I'm so torn!

Mrs in Training said...

I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name...I LOVE my middle, and I share it with so many other women in my family. But my husband hates it, and wishes I were Kelly MaidenName HisLastName, ha.

Heather said...

I'm keeping my maiden name as my middle name. I will always been known as Heather Lee, leaving the Danielle (my middle) just isn't important to me.

Melissa said...

I'm planning on keeping my original middle name for 2 reasons:

1. My current last name is "Smith" and it's just too common! Do you know how many "Melissa Smiths" there are in Nashville?

2. My original middle name is the same as my mom so I want to keep that connection,

Brittany @ Boots and Pearls said...

We just got married two and a half weeks ago and I just went to the SSA yesterday to change my name. I debated for a week about what to do for my name. I finally decided to move my maiden over to my middle and drop my middle name.

Escue is a different last name and I only have 2 male cousins to carry on the last name. And my middle name doesn't have any significance. I read a few girls who regretted keeping 2 middle names when they filled out forms so I just dropped it all together.

Peace Love Applesauce- Terri said...

I kept my middle name since I share it with my mom and daughter.