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Thursday, September 20, 2012

Le Bebe: The Psychological Pregnancy

When you're adopting, things are quite different than they would be if I was pregnant. There are obvious things like the growing belly, but there's a sort of psychological pregnancy that comes with adoptive families. 

Many adoptive families usually don't know when to expect the baby and don't know what gender they're expecting.  It could be a month or two or it could be a year.  Our agency quotes couples 3-12 months for a match with a baby.

This makes it quite hard to have friends and families host showers or for parents to know when to start making room for baby.  And some people will tell you to wait until the baby comes, while others encourage you to start getting ready right away.  This is where the psychological pregnancy comes in to play  BIG time.

Fred and I decided that we want to experience the same things that all expectant parents go through by diving right in and surrounding ourselves in all things baby.  Not only are we currently designing the nursery, but we're also taking advantages of sales on baby items.  

Last week, Target had a MAJOR sale on tons of baby items and I took full advantage.  My car seriously looked like the entire baby section of Target threw up in it!  We got some great "going to need at some point" stuff  and saved a ton of money in the long run.
Little by little, we're hunting and gathering for Baby S.  And sooner or later, we'll be ready! 

19 comments:

Tamara @ T {times} Three said...

I've wondered about the psychological aspect of adoption before... They say that mothers "instantly" have that bond with their babies. Do you think you'll have the same click, or are you prepared for it to take a while?

Samantha said...

Oh that is so exciting! I'm glad you are going to try and experience it all :)

Desirae said...

That is so very exciting! Glad you are able to experience it. ;]

Holly said...

Good for you, Caroline. You have to be prepared. :)

But... my favorite showers are the "Sip and See" showers {usually for people who choose not to know the gender}. It's fun to bring a gift when they are a month old, or so, and see the baby.

I can't wait for you and Fred to meet your match! :)

Andrea {blonde ambitions} said...

You absolutely deserve to experience everything just as those carrying a child get to experience :) Yay for sales at Target!! Praying for a quick match for you & Fred!

Ashley said...

I'm so glad you and Fred will get to experience a great number of the 'expecting a child' activities and events - like shopping for baby, baby showers, designing the nursery...I think those are some of the best parts!

KRISTIN said...

There is no way I, personally, could wait for baby to get stuff! I think it's cool that you guys have this pre-baby expecting period to get ready and nest and get excited about buying baby stuff! I cannot wait to see what you're doing in the nursery! :)

Carolyn said...

OMG! I love that you're planning for baby already. I totally think that's the way to go. You should be able to have the nesting/planning time just like any other mama! I can't wait to see the nursery! Details please!!

TracyZLesh @ Then I Got To Thinking said...

So excited for you - look at all of those fun new goodies!!

Mindy said...

Eek how fun!! I'm glad y'all made that decision! I would do it that way too. Best of luck!! :-)

J and A said...

I love that you are preparing and having fun buying baby stuff!! You deserve that. I can't wait to see your nursery! :) So exciting!! Come on baby!!! xo

Shari said...

You absolutely should be planning ahead. It never can hurt to do that. I forgot to tell you but my brother's best friend and his wife recently adopted and I loved that they still had a baby shower once the baby was theirs. You absolutely should still be able to have all of those fun experiences! :)

Emily said...

I think that is a great idea! Glad you scored some good deals! I think you should most definitely enjoy it all! So happy for y'all!

Jessica said...

I really hope you two get your little baby soon!! Good idea to get prepared. I'm shocked your adoption agency says it only takes 3-12 months! I have no idea how adoption works but thought it was much longer. SO happy for you guys!

Valerie Griffin said...

So exciting! Y'all will be great parents!

The Taffs said...

I think it's great that you're going through the same steps as with any other pregnancy. I think it's an important part of 'nesting' before the baby, and it definitely builds the excitement!

Leah said...

Love this! This little one will be here before you know it & you'll be thankful you did all of this before! I can imagine how much fun you both had shopping for it all. I can't wait to make baby S some special things. xox

Laura@Cowboy Boots said...

sound like a typical mom to be stocking up!!!

can't wait!

Kelsey @ Seattle Smith's said...

Such a FUN time to shop and plan!